Let me start by saying- I really hate that saying. It’s often said in a passive aggressive way by someone who has no intention of doing anything to help someone who is in a place where they are stuck (not that it’s something anyone has said to me but that’s what I always think)
But I am a fan of “slow down, calm down, don’t hurry, don’t worry, trust the process”
I teach and dole out advice during my sessions.
In private sessions I work with people who get homework, don’t do it, and then come back with the same problems
Often we know what we need to do, but we are not ready to do it.
Often nothing we can say to someone else will make them move faster than they are ready to.
And for ourselves- sometimes we need to be kind to ourselves, and allow ourselves to realise we can know the right things to do – but sometimes we are not quite ready to do them.
When we relax, and stop being disappointed in ourselves and our lack of ability to fix things- it is often then that change comes and things click.
And then there is no need for rushing. It will happen. In its own time.