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Setting and sticking with values

At the beginning of the year I sat down and had a bit of a big think.

If I could just choose four values or attributes that summed up how I most wanted to be seen, but also about who I wanted around me, what would they be?

Because I was into flowers, I looked up the meaning of the flowers and I bought a bouquet of them, then painted it and then hung it in my bedroom as a reminder of what my core values are, and how much I needed to see those same values in the key people in my life.

I’ve also started to look at how I can further embed these core values into my business. It’s already made a difference in the way I relate to my children, to my loved ones, and to anyone I interact with.

I loved discovering that  my core four values were also complimentary to those of The Marketing Company – and that increasingly people and clients who don’t have the same values just tend to want to spend less time with me.

We all have values we live by. Some of us have ones that are positive and lead to lovely things, and others of us have a less positive view. We can make a conscious effort to focus on particular values over others, or break habits by choosing new values.

Here are my four key values:

(these are not in any particular order)

PASSION: To follow your bliss, do what is in your heart to do, do it with joy and energy. To live a life of doing what moves you or stimulates you and then share that with others just as  natural outpour of who you are.

A SENSE OF WORTH: To be able to recognise your own worth, and to recognise the worth in others. To not be scared to stand up and put your name forward, to feel confident in who you are, and how amazing you are.

KINDNESS: To choose a kind word over a cross one, to do a kind thing without expecting a return, to not hold people to respond in equal measure, to be kind. And this includes- to be kind to self – to give self time to refresh and re energise, to see when tiredness or stress has impacted behaviour and learn to be kind about time out, and treats, and looking after both self and others.

But my favourite is…

GRACE: To forgive when it’s not deserved. To let go and let God, to understand we are all doing the best we can do right now, to not expect perfection but to delight in perfect grace, to not make someone or self beholden to sticking to always doing everything right all the time, but understand that we are all in a journey that may involve mistakes or misjudgments, and it’s not our job to hold any offence towards that.

These underpin my family time (family can be a value for some, but for me these things make my family what it is) , my time with friends, my time in my work, and my relationship with myself. I find the people I am drawn to have the same or similar values, and if they don’t, they tend to leave, and that is all ok. It is not my job to make someone adhere to my values – we all get to choose which ones we live by- and how we live those values out – and there are many awesome values out there that I just happen not to place as great an importance on than those four above.

Have you considered your values? What would they be do you think?

About rgoodchild

Parenting and education coach, working primarily with ECE teachers, and parents of 0-8 year olds. Author of 27 published print titles, and a few e books too. Was a freelance writer Mother, business woman, entrepreneur.


One thought on “Setting and sticking with values

  1. Best wishes for your new job. My four key values off the top of my head would be passion, creativity, authenticity an service.

    Posted by Wolfies | July 30, 2013, 11:22 pm

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